How would you like to have a tool which you could monitor your body’s actions and how it was processing the way you feel at all times? There is a method to find which file folder in the data base holds the information we are searching for. Energy Psychology is the method. You have this tool built into your body/minds operating system at your service all the time. It is described as Kinesiology or muscle testing.
The interpretation or description of psychology is understanding the actions, attitudes and/or behavior of a person and how he/she is interfacing with his/her life. Conventional psychological practices are only marginally successful in getting down to the cause of dysfunctional behavior because we very seldom can recall or understand the situation and the actions we have taken due to the trauma or distress we were under at the time. Most of the time we are not aware how, where or what was filled in our mind.
When you master the Energy Psychology system you can control your behavior and response to any situation which is presented to you. You can use the energy of your body and mind to ask any question once you learn how to use the system. There are two forms you can use to ask the questions. One is a direct form using your fingers if you are working it yourself or a pendulum which is described as dowsing an indirect form which will provide the same answers once you learn how to use it. The second form requires a practitioner or someone who is skilled at Kinesiology to ask questions using your arm as the signaling device. Energy Psychology is a method to ask questions about anything which is in your Subconscious minds data base or actually anything you would like to ask questions about that your mind can tune into. There really is no limitation as to what you can access with Energy Psychology.
Based on this description of what Energy Psychology is how is it used? With Energy Psychology all we have to do is ask our Subconscious what the situation was and how we reacted to the situation and what our behavior was at the time of the incident. We must know how ask the right questions to get accurate proper answers. Now we have the core issue and base cause plus the actions we have taken in relation to information which has been recorded in the Subconscious Minds data base in the past. We are accessing the records our mind has recorded with Kinesiology (muscle testing).
I have two books out on the subject too, “Your Body is Talking Are You Listening" and "ReParenting Yourself Growing up Again”. More information about Energy Psychology is available at our website.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Freedom from stress under all situations, is it possible?
There is stress all around us all the time so most people would say no. In my view I would say that it is possible because I reached the point where I can function stress free. I have been through some extremely stressful situations where I did not react at all. In the past I would find myself getting agitated and angry over situations I could not control. I have come to a point where nothing seems to rattle me any more. I finally have arrived at a stress free life. You can too, if you follow along these articles on stress.
In working with many clients who seem to get through stressful situations very well, I have discovered the key to becoming stress free under all circumstances. I knew I was able to accomplish this task myself and was wondering if I could help others do the same. I was not willing to make a claim you could become stress free at all times unless I could document the claim by having other people do it too. What I wanted to see was average people overcoming stress and succeeding in their lives and careers.
There are many examples with famous people in the sports world such a Tiger woods who seems to be unshakable in the golf world. Many people would not see Donald Trump in this category yet he is never down even when he is financially in trouble. He always recovers because he knows he will. The key here is” he knows he will”. He has no doubts or skepticism. He does not let fear enter his world.
When I discovered stress was caused by overwhelm it explained many problems. It can put stops to anything we are trying to accomplish. If you navigate through your day without letting stress knock you down you have passed through gate one to stress freedom. If you can confront the tigers and dragons in your life and not let them run you down or cause fear you have made it through gate two. Most people see theoretical or virtual dragons and tigers in their life when they really do not exist. It can also be boulders and limitations you put in your path which you don’t think you can get around. It is only fear and loss of control which causes them to rise and block your path. It is self doubt and skepticism which will block us too. The key here is being able to take risks and know the outcome will be positive. There are hidden dragons around every corner unless we know that we can take on the dragons and not get hurt.
Your Life Is Functioning In One Of These four Basic Patterns:
1.The fire of desire, intention, inspiration, enthusiasm, passion and commitment is driving your life with energy and purpose. You know you are on the path to success; stress will not have any effects on you.
2. You are on fire all right, no direction spinning your wheels and burning out, looking for the path.
3. Your fire is on auto pilot low power existing with no focus or purpose. Life is a struggle.
4. Your fire has burned out, retreating in survival or fear of failure. Life is a continual battle.
We operate from energy. Positive high energy builds us up, whereas negative emotions, feelings and attitudes eat up our energy and cause us to burn out. We must have all the energy producers in our life working at a high level of performance or we will burn and flame out. How do we fan and ignite the fire under our desire to get started over if we are burning out? We must have high energy which is three dimensional coming from three different levels in our life. Physical is controlled by diet, exercise and the ability to sleep deeply. Mental/psychological is controlled by our attitudes, beliefs, concepts and interpretations we hold. Spiritual which is our connection to a higher source of being.
When we evaluate where we are functioning from we can see we must have control over our personal power and we must put fire under our desire, drive, intention and discipline to know we can follow through. You can succeed with the above programs in place without many challenges to your success. To guarantee total success there are keys most of us do not have. Without these keys burnout and melt down can happen. These keys are self esteem, self worth and self confidence and unconditional love with the eight qualities which it contains. Very few of us received these keys from our parents. The main cause was they did not know what they were. They did not get them from their parents so they could not provide for us. What they handed down to us was a dysfunctional parenting program which was control, authority, manipulation and compliance. This program does not work and has never worked. You can see a major difference in children’s behavior when you begin working with eight qualities of unconditional love which are acceptance, approval, recognition, validation, acknowledgment, forgiveness, respect and trust. If you do not have these qualities installed in your mind you can not operate from them. In the process of growing up as a child we did not receive unconditional love which blocked our self esteem, shelf worth and self confidence. To recover these qualities all you have to do is take your power back and take control of your life. It may seem easy, and yes it is, but there is a catch. It must be done in a particular manner to get it to work. If you have a desire to achieve freedom from stress, reclaim your personal power, take control over your life and take responsibility we can provide the method and the tools to do it. You can download our book which explains our processes at www.transformyourmind.com
In working with many clients who seem to get through stressful situations very well, I have discovered the key to becoming stress free under all circumstances. I knew I was able to accomplish this task myself and was wondering if I could help others do the same. I was not willing to make a claim you could become stress free at all times unless I could document the claim by having other people do it too. What I wanted to see was average people overcoming stress and succeeding in their lives and careers.
There are many examples with famous people in the sports world such a Tiger woods who seems to be unshakable in the golf world. Many people would not see Donald Trump in this category yet he is never down even when he is financially in trouble. He always recovers because he knows he will. The key here is” he knows he will”. He has no doubts or skepticism. He does not let fear enter his world.
When I discovered stress was caused by overwhelm it explained many problems. It can put stops to anything we are trying to accomplish. If you navigate through your day without letting stress knock you down you have passed through gate one to stress freedom. If you can confront the tigers and dragons in your life and not let them run you down or cause fear you have made it through gate two. Most people see theoretical or virtual dragons and tigers in their life when they really do not exist. It can also be boulders and limitations you put in your path which you don’t think you can get around. It is only fear and loss of control which causes them to rise and block your path. It is self doubt and skepticism which will block us too. The key here is being able to take risks and know the outcome will be positive. There are hidden dragons around every corner unless we know that we can take on the dragons and not get hurt.
Your Life Is Functioning In One Of These four Basic Patterns:
1.The fire of desire, intention, inspiration, enthusiasm, passion and commitment is driving your life with energy and purpose. You know you are on the path to success; stress will not have any effects on you.
2. You are on fire all right, no direction spinning your wheels and burning out, looking for the path.
3. Your fire is on auto pilot low power existing with no focus or purpose. Life is a struggle.
4. Your fire has burned out, retreating in survival or fear of failure. Life is a continual battle.
We operate from energy. Positive high energy builds us up, whereas negative emotions, feelings and attitudes eat up our energy and cause us to burn out. We must have all the energy producers in our life working at a high level of performance or we will burn and flame out. How do we fan and ignite the fire under our desire to get started over if we are burning out? We must have high energy which is three dimensional coming from three different levels in our life. Physical is controlled by diet, exercise and the ability to sleep deeply. Mental/psychological is controlled by our attitudes, beliefs, concepts and interpretations we hold. Spiritual which is our connection to a higher source of being.
When we evaluate where we are functioning from we can see we must have control over our personal power and we must put fire under our desire, drive, intention and discipline to know we can follow through. You can succeed with the above programs in place without many challenges to your success. To guarantee total success there are keys most of us do not have. Without these keys burnout and melt down can happen. These keys are self esteem, self worth and self confidence and unconditional love with the eight qualities which it contains. Very few of us received these keys from our parents. The main cause was they did not know what they were. They did not get them from their parents so they could not provide for us. What they handed down to us was a dysfunctional parenting program which was control, authority, manipulation and compliance. This program does not work and has never worked. You can see a major difference in children’s behavior when you begin working with eight qualities of unconditional love which are acceptance, approval, recognition, validation, acknowledgment, forgiveness, respect and trust. If you do not have these qualities installed in your mind you can not operate from them. In the process of growing up as a child we did not receive unconditional love which blocked our self esteem, shelf worth and self confidence. To recover these qualities all you have to do is take your power back and take control of your life. It may seem easy, and yes it is, but there is a catch. It must be done in a particular manner to get it to work. If you have a desire to achieve freedom from stress, reclaim your personal power, take control over your life and take responsibility we can provide the method and the tools to do it. You can download our book which explains our processes at www.transformyourmind.com
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Stress Management
What is stress?
Stress is difficult for scientists to define because it is a subjective sensation associated with varied symptoms that differ for each of us. Many scientists see stress as a reaction to events in our life which cause a reaction in our body. Stress is an emotional physiological reaction which everyone experiences as he or she encounters changes in life. Sudden changes in our environment will cause our body to set up our flight or fight mechanism to protect us from the perceived danger.. They can have positive or negative effects. Stress can make you deal with a situations you may be procrastinating about and therefor force you to take notice of the challenges or impending crisis which may cause conflicts. The negative effects when you allow the issue to become continuos or get you down can cause depression, heart disease or even cancer. When we can’t deal with an issue we unconsciously look for way out of the crisis. Avoid the issue does not make it go away. All it does is delay the consequences.
Time magazine's June 6, 1983 cover story described stress as "The Epidemic of the Eighties" and referred to it as our leading health problem; there can be little doubt that the situation has progressively worsened since then. Recent surveys confirm that adult Americans perceive they are under much more stress than a decade or two ago. A 1996 Prevention magazine survey found that almost 75% feel they have "great stress" one day a week with one out of three indicating they feel this way more than twice a week. In the same 1983 survey only 55% said they felt under great stress on a weekly basis. It has been estimated that 75 - 90 percent of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress related problems. Job Stress is far and away the leading source of stress for adults but stress levels have also escalated in children, teenagers, college students and the elderly for other reasons, including: increased crime, violence and other threats to personal safety; pernicious peer pressures that lead to substance abuse and other unhealthy life style habits; social isolation and loneliness; the erosion of family and religious values and ties; the loss of other strong sources of social support that are powerful stress busters. Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life. But when you're unable to cope well with the stress in your life, your mind and body may pay the price.
The stress from today's financial crisis with home repos, the stock market crash, the high level of unemployment, the wars around the world, dishonest on Wall Street and the banks plus the possibility of higher taxes can really add to the stress coming at us.
The physical reaction is to increase our heart rate and begins to dump adrenaline into our blood stream in readiness for the need to act or deal with the stressor. Since our mind interprets all sensory input literally the perceived effect may not always be a synonym for distress. Situations like a steep roller coaster ride that causes fear and anxiety for some can prove highly pleasurable for others. Winning a race or being invited to speak at a conference could cause as much stress as a negative experience. Stress is an unavoidable consequence of life. There are some stresses like the loss of parent, partner, friend or loss of a job or position that you can't control or avoid and others that you can prevent or influence. The trick is in learning how to distinguish between the two so that you're not constantly frustrated like Don Quixote tilting at windmills and devote your time and talent to areas where you can make a difference. Try to follow the advice in Reinhold Niebuhr's, serenity prayer, "Grant me the courage to change the things I can change, the serenity to accept the things I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference." When we learn to understand and cope with loss we no longer experience grieving over a loss. What IS -- IS it is in the past. There isn’t anything we can do about the past. There is something we can do about our situation in the present. How do we cope with it all?
Stress is difficult for scientists to define because it is a subjective sensation associated with varied symptoms that differ for each of us. Many scientists see stress as a reaction to events in our life which cause a reaction in our body. Stress is an emotional physiological reaction which everyone experiences as he or she encounters changes in life. Sudden changes in our environment will cause our body to set up our flight or fight mechanism to protect us from the perceived danger.. They can have positive or negative effects. Stress can make you deal with a situations you may be procrastinating about and therefor force you to take notice of the challenges or impending crisis which may cause conflicts. The negative effects when you allow the issue to become continuos or get you down can cause depression, heart disease or even cancer. When we can’t deal with an issue we unconsciously look for way out of the crisis. Avoid the issue does not make it go away. All it does is delay the consequences.
Time magazine's June 6, 1983 cover story described stress as "The Epidemic of the Eighties" and referred to it as our leading health problem; there can be little doubt that the situation has progressively worsened since then. Recent surveys confirm that adult Americans perceive they are under much more stress than a decade or two ago. A 1996 Prevention magazine survey found that almost 75% feel they have "great stress" one day a week with one out of three indicating they feel this way more than twice a week. In the same 1983 survey only 55% said they felt under great stress on a weekly basis. It has been estimated that 75 - 90 percent of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress related problems. Job Stress is far and away the leading source of stress for adults but stress levels have also escalated in children, teenagers, college students and the elderly for other reasons, including: increased crime, violence and other threats to personal safety; pernicious peer pressures that lead to substance abuse and other unhealthy life style habits; social isolation and loneliness; the erosion of family and religious values and ties; the loss of other strong sources of social support that are powerful stress busters. Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life. But when you're unable to cope well with the stress in your life, your mind and body may pay the price.
The stress from today's financial crisis with home repos, the stock market crash, the high level of unemployment, the wars around the world, dishonest on Wall Street and the banks plus the possibility of higher taxes can really add to the stress coming at us.
The physical reaction is to increase our heart rate and begins to dump adrenaline into our blood stream in readiness for the need to act or deal with the stressor. Since our mind interprets all sensory input literally the perceived effect may not always be a synonym for distress. Situations like a steep roller coaster ride that causes fear and anxiety for some can prove highly pleasurable for others. Winning a race or being invited to speak at a conference could cause as much stress as a negative experience. Stress is an unavoidable consequence of life. There are some stresses like the loss of parent, partner, friend or loss of a job or position that you can't control or avoid and others that you can prevent or influence. The trick is in learning how to distinguish between the two so that you're not constantly frustrated like Don Quixote tilting at windmills and devote your time and talent to areas where you can make a difference. Try to follow the advice in Reinhold Niebuhr's, serenity prayer, "Grant me the courage to change the things I can change, the serenity to accept the things I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference." When we learn to understand and cope with loss we no longer experience grieving over a loss. What IS -- IS it is in the past. There isn’t anything we can do about the past. There is something we can do about our situation in the present. How do we cope with it all?
Monday, March 30, 2009
Life On Fire Or Burning Out
Your Life Is Functioning In One These Three Basic Patterns:
1. The fire of desire, inspiration, enthusiasm, and passion is driving your life with energy and purpose.
2. You are on fire all right, spinning your wheels and burning out.
3. You are flaming out in survival and pulling back in fear of failure.
We operate from energy. Positive high energy builds us up, whereas negative emotions, feelings and attitudes eat up our energy and cause us to burn out. We must have all the energy producers in our life working at a high level or we will burn and flame out. How do we fan and ignite the fire under our desire to get started over if we are burning out? You must have high energy which is three dimensional coming from three different levels in your life. Physical, which controlled by diet, exercise the ability to sleep deeply. Mental, which controlled by your attitudes, beliefs, concepts and interpretations you hold. Spiritual, which is your connection to a higher source of being.
Some people operate out of high positive energy ready to take on any challenge. Most people operate out of low negative energy feeling dragged out. How do you fuel your energy? Do you get up in the morning with high energy rested and ready to go or feeling tired and dragged out. When performing at peak performance people who have high energy operate from optimism, intention, desire, inspiration, enthusiasm and passion to meet their commitments and goals. Fear driven people operate from defense against a threat which they perceive is going to happen, so they live in survival. They lose contact with their end goal because FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. They create their own realities by the way they think.
The major challenge is to set the desire and focus on our intention. Once we get this lined up we have to make a commitment and discipline ourselves to follow through. We will never reach the goal if we allow ourselves to make excuses and let ourselves fall into procrastination then justify why we are not on track. We can fight against it if we know how to succeed at the task we are working in. Anger, frustration, resentment and fear will drag us down eventually.
Mental energy can get blocked and slowed down by not focusing on your goals. Many people get caught in misinterpretations of what emotions are. They talk about how emotional energy is an important part of mental energy; it is the fire in mental energy according to many. What I have discovered is emotional energy is negative, out of control energy, driven by needs to get an end result. If we are controlled by emotions we are out of control. People locked into emotions can not direct their energy because their mind is driven to gain control with goal oriented behavior. Negative energy is locked into basic emotional programming. When you evaluate how the mind processes emotions then you see that emotions are driven by fear. There is very little fire to succeed in emotions as they are following old behavior patterns locked in our Subconscious Mind’s data base from the past.
1. The fire of desire, inspiration, enthusiasm, and passion is driving your life with energy and purpose.
2. You are on fire all right, spinning your wheels and burning out.
3. You are flaming out in survival and pulling back in fear of failure.
We operate from energy. Positive high energy builds us up, whereas negative emotions, feelings and attitudes eat up our energy and cause us to burn out. We must have all the energy producers in our life working at a high level or we will burn and flame out. How do we fan and ignite the fire under our desire to get started over if we are burning out? You must have high energy which is three dimensional coming from three different levels in your life. Physical, which controlled by diet, exercise the ability to sleep deeply. Mental, which controlled by your attitudes, beliefs, concepts and interpretations you hold. Spiritual, which is your connection to a higher source of being.
Some people operate out of high positive energy ready to take on any challenge. Most people operate out of low negative energy feeling dragged out. How do you fuel your energy? Do you get up in the morning with high energy rested and ready to go or feeling tired and dragged out. When performing at peak performance people who have high energy operate from optimism, intention, desire, inspiration, enthusiasm and passion to meet their commitments and goals. Fear driven people operate from defense against a threat which they perceive is going to happen, so they live in survival. They lose contact with their end goal because FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. They create their own realities by the way they think.
The major challenge is to set the desire and focus on our intention. Once we get this lined up we have to make a commitment and discipline ourselves to follow through. We will never reach the goal if we allow ourselves to make excuses and let ourselves fall into procrastination then justify why we are not on track. We can fight against it if we know how to succeed at the task we are working in. Anger, frustration, resentment and fear will drag us down eventually.
Mental energy can get blocked and slowed down by not focusing on your goals. Many people get caught in misinterpretations of what emotions are. They talk about how emotional energy is an important part of mental energy; it is the fire in mental energy according to many. What I have discovered is emotional energy is negative, out of control energy, driven by needs to get an end result. If we are controlled by emotions we are out of control. People locked into emotions can not direct their energy because their mind is driven to gain control with goal oriented behavior. Negative energy is locked into basic emotional programming. When you evaluate how the mind processes emotions then you see that emotions are driven by fear. There is very little fire to succeed in emotions as they are following old behavior patterns locked in our Subconscious Mind’s data base from the past.
Monday, March 2, 2009
False Evidence Appearing Real, The Definition of Fear
Most people react to fear before it happens because they make an assumption of what might happen if I expose myself to or take this step. We have a saboteur in our brain which keeps us on the straight and narrow because it knows where you are is secure, safe and we can protect ourselves from this illusionary fear which we see in front of us. There really is no fear. We create the fear due to our inability to confront the fear. We can get through it if we had the courage. Yet most people retreat from the false evidence they perceive (see) before them. Unfortunately there is not any possible way we can see that this false evidence is actually appearing real if we are in an illusion which is more real to us than the actual truth in what we perceive (seeing).
There is not any way you are going to convince or prove to a person they are in this illusion they are in if you are not an authority figure they accept. If they accept the opinion of this authority figure they usually give their power away to them and accept their opinion, direction or diagnosis from a medical doctor or a trusted advisor, coach or mentor without any conditions. Yet, a person who may have more credible information is rejected, scorned and criticized as providing false information, being self righteous or phony by them. It does not make any difference how credible you are if they, the perceivers are in an illusion of fear.
It can be very frustrating to see people make decisions to follow a direction when you know they are on an ineffective path. It could be any situation in life. It is not limited to any particular activity. It can be health, relationships, business or a decision to purchase something you know is not a good buy etc. Again the fear creator in our mind is at work. Most people will believe this false self, which is controlling their life. The main self talkers in our mind are the Inner Critic and the Critical Parent. These are sub personalities that run our life.
Learn more about Fear at my website.
There is not any way you are going to convince or prove to a person they are in this illusion they are in if you are not an authority figure they accept. If they accept the opinion of this authority figure they usually give their power away to them and accept their opinion, direction or diagnosis from a medical doctor or a trusted advisor, coach or mentor without any conditions. Yet, a person who may have more credible information is rejected, scorned and criticized as providing false information, being self righteous or phony by them. It does not make any difference how credible you are if they, the perceivers are in an illusion of fear.
It can be very frustrating to see people make decisions to follow a direction when you know they are on an ineffective path. It could be any situation in life. It is not limited to any particular activity. It can be health, relationships, business or a decision to purchase something you know is not a good buy etc. Again the fear creator in our mind is at work. Most people will believe this false self, which is controlling their life. The main self talkers in our mind are the Inner Critic and the Critical Parent. These are sub personalities that run our life.
Learn more about Fear at my website.
Freedom from Back Pain
Almost every one has some form of back pain. The pain may be only in the lower back or around the shoulder blades. Some is in the mid back next to the spine. Very seldom do people who struggle with back pain get relief and become pain free. Are you willing to give yourself ten minutes to find the answer to a pain free life? Some doctors will tell you that surgery will reduce or stop the pain. In my experience back surgery very seldom works. Most people resort to pain killing drugs which they will have to take forever as the pain does not recede. It usually will get worse as time goes on. So what is the prognosis for back pain relief? The question is do you want the answer or do you want to cling to where you are? It will take some courage to face the issues and clear them. Read on and I will provide all the answers in this article to what causes the pain and how to clear and heal or cure it forever so you will be out of pain for the balance of your life. Are you ready for the ride? Read on. The answers are right here.
I suffered with back pain 24/7 for over 24 years. Doctors offered me surgery which I would not consent to. They said we could put you in traction and stretch your back out (I had shrunk over an inch in height between age thirty and forty). When I would not do that they said pain killing drugs would relieve the pain. I would not consent any of these suggestions. So where did I go from there? I built a high pain threshold in my body so I would not feel the pain unless it became chronic. This did not work because my back was beginning to get weaker and it would blow out so I had to go to a Chiropractor in the beginning but their adjustments did not work after a few years. I found an osteopath, who understood muscle and bone relationship which was causing my back to break down but it came to a point where he was frustrated as why it was blowing out. He finally told me not lift anything that weighed more than ten pounds. This only worked when I was thinking about what I was doing. Many times I would forget and pick up something and out went my back. The doctor told me if this degeneration of my spine continued I would end up in a wheel chair when my spine would no longer hold my back up.
Learn more about Freedom from Back Pain at my website.
I suffered with back pain 24/7 for over 24 years. Doctors offered me surgery which I would not consent to. They said we could put you in traction and stretch your back out (I had shrunk over an inch in height between age thirty and forty). When I would not do that they said pain killing drugs would relieve the pain. I would not consent any of these suggestions. So where did I go from there? I built a high pain threshold in my body so I would not feel the pain unless it became chronic. This did not work because my back was beginning to get weaker and it would blow out so I had to go to a Chiropractor in the beginning but their adjustments did not work after a few years. I found an osteopath, who understood muscle and bone relationship which was causing my back to break down but it came to a point where he was frustrated as why it was blowing out. He finally told me not lift anything that weighed more than ten pounds. This only worked when I was thinking about what I was doing. Many times I would forget and pick up something and out went my back. The doctor told me if this degeneration of my spine continued I would end up in a wheel chair when my spine would no longer hold my back up.
Learn more about Freedom from Back Pain at my website.
Unconditional Love, Do You Have It?
The word love is used in many ways which have no real intent or meaning which causes the word to be diminished it's affect on us as a humans. Rather than saying hello, closing a conversation or departing people will use hi love or I love you. It has become almost a slang or common saying. It has been misused in music and movies for over 80 years.
What is this quality of life that we all want, but very few have in their life? Why is this so.? Unconditional Love must given to us by our parents but most parents do not know what it is as it was not given to them. There are seven qualities to unconditional love; acceptance, recognition, validation, acknowledgment, approval, respect and trust. To operate from these qualities we have to act with kindness, caring and acceptance without judgment, control, acceptance without manipulation and authority.
If you talk to most people they think they have it. Yet, very few people know what true unconditional love is nor can they provide it to themselves or anyone else. The greatest power known to man is that of unconditional love. As humans, we have searched endlessly for the experience of love through the outer senses. Great nations have come and gone under the guise of love for their people. Religions have flourished and perished while claiming the true path to love. We, the people of this planet, may have missed the simplicity of unconditional love. . . So what is it we are missing?
Learn more about Unconditional Love at my website.
What is this quality of life that we all want, but very few have in their life? Why is this so.? Unconditional Love must given to us by our parents but most parents do not know what it is as it was not given to them. There are seven qualities to unconditional love; acceptance, recognition, validation, acknowledgment, approval, respect and trust. To operate from these qualities we have to act with kindness, caring and acceptance without judgment, control, acceptance without manipulation and authority.
If you talk to most people they think they have it. Yet, very few people know what true unconditional love is nor can they provide it to themselves or anyone else. The greatest power known to man is that of unconditional love. As humans, we have searched endlessly for the experience of love through the outer senses. Great nations have come and gone under the guise of love for their people. Religions have flourished and perished while claiming the true path to love. We, the people of this planet, may have missed the simplicity of unconditional love. . . So what is it we are missing?
Learn more about Unconditional Love at my website.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
ReParenting Ourselves
Parenting is not just about learning how to be functional parents and pass on a healthy world view; it is about learning how to reparent ourselves and unload the programs that we in turn accepted from our parents so we can become a whole person. It is next to impossible be a good parents unless can find ourselves and enter recovery so we can let go of the past mistakes our parents made in our childhood.
I discovered that coming from a dysfunctional family as long as our past experience was imprinted in our data base we will repeat our parents behavior. Before we can have successful relationshipa become successful parents, we must unload our garbage that is setting us up to perpetuate our all our parents' dysfunctional behavior patterns. What I discovered was we cannot be parents who set a good example for our children until we learn how to reparent ourselves and grow up. It is like we must go through the process of growing up again. Children can not provide a good parental model or raise children. So parenting is not just a matter of doing the right behaviour; it's also a matter of being the right person too. To be this we have to understand what being a whole person is. If you can not walk the talk and if you do not know what to say in a positive manner how can you be a parent. If you have a basically corrupted operating system in your computer you can not create functional relationships nor can you become as an acceptable parent. Over the last 30 years I have met seven people who were effective parents. Quite devastating when you know want happens in dysfunctional families.
My presentation in this book may not please the people who choose live in their illusion thinking they are in effective relationships and can or are effective parents. Most people do not want to believe that all the causes of our problems and conflicts started in the first four years of our life, I did not want to blame my mother for all my conflicts, even though she did cause them, She did the best she could. We can not live in the past or blame others for our problems and conflicts. Even though we could not control the situations in the first ten years of our life we can not blame anyone for the outcome. We have to unwind it and take control and responsibility.
I view this process of transformation from all angles. I have no developed opinions on what is right beyond what I present in this book. I look at all sides of the question. I do not let religion or cultural traditions influence my theory or concepts. What I have presented here is based on my experience with clients and in my lectures and seminars over the last thirty years. I will look at anything a person brings to me to evaluate. There are some concepts in this book which may not be in line with the beliefs of some people. Every process or program is documented. A personal belief may cause you to discount my theory. But never the less Just because you do not agree me does not invalidate my theory or process.
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